One of the most challenging things about being a teenage girl is relationships. Something even harder about relationships in general is long-distance relationships. Being in a long-distance relationship isn't for everybody because it isn't easy by any means. I think that couples that can genuinely make long-distance work deserve much more credit than received.
I think that one of the more important parts of a long-distance relationship is knowing yourself outside of that relationship. Have hobbies and be able to focus on yourself rather than being totally wrapped up in another person. I wouldn't say that being focused on your significant other is necessarily a bad thing, but I think that focusing on yourself is just as important.
Some ways that I have personally coped with being long-distance:
-I have started to rebuild old friendships that since moving to college I have sort of let "die out" because of being so busy. While I am home, I reconnect with my best friends from high school and spend time with them by either going out shopping or going to the movies and just hanging out and catching up. I have realized that while a loving relationship is important, so is having other friends and having that "girl-time".
-I keep up with his everyday life by calling at least once a day, if not a little more. I like to make sure I know if he had a bad day and what he did that day so that I can also keep up with his everyday life even being seven hours away. To me, I think it is important to keep each other updated on even the little and simple things because when we do see each other again, it's like we never even missed a beat in each other's lives.
-I also like to spend a lot of time with family while home. For me, it helps push away that longing feeling of missing someone far away. I enjoy having movie nights, shopping together, cooking together, just sitting and talking, and even helping around the house because it helps re-build that relationship with parents and siblings.
-Take advantage of that "alone time". While being so far away does hurt and isn't easy, it is important to take that time to focus on yourself. Go to work and make some extra money, take the time to sit and study or work on assignments, go to the gym for a while and get in a great workout. Use that time to work on you because taking care of yourself is just as important.
It is just as important to love yourself as it is to love someone else. I do genuinely believe that you have to learn to love yourself before you can learn to love someone else. Learn your own self-worth and be confident in yourself because in my opinion, that is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. In past relationships I had no self-confidence or sense of self-worth, which had led to a toxic relationship because we allow people to treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated. Since then, I have taken quite some time to work on myself and found my self-worth and I am now in the happiest and healthiest relationship I have ever been in simply because I now know the type of love I deserve, and he treats me just as such.
My point here is to prove that we need to learn how we deserve to be treated because every human deserves a genuine loving and caring relationship. And for those of you who are in a long-distance relationship I understand it's hard but remember that nothing worth having is going to be easy and that good things are worth fighting for. <3
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